A recent study from Harvard University reveals that around half of the student body feels uncomfortable discussing controversial topics. I was shocked! After all, how can we hear different points of view if people are too afraid to talk about them?
Obtaining diverse perspectives on a topic is essential for forming an opinion based on a comprehensive understanding. While we may not agree with all viewpoints, we can find common ground with some. This broader perspective allows us to clarify our view more effectively.
Then, out of the blue, the president of the United States declares war on Harvard, threatening to suspend any foreign students from attending the school, revoke its charitable status, and require any foreign students currently enrolled to change schools or risk losing their foreign status, effectively making them illegal immigrants.
This ongoing foolishness threatens democracy. It undermines the foundation of free speech and the Constitution. We can sense the chaos, fear, and trauma that contribute to a society gripped by anxiety. What can we do to change this perilous situation?
Well, as with most situations, the solution begins by tempering our feelings with a bit of self-compassion. Even though it’s easy to identify the source of this upheaval, we all respond differently to things that upset our sense of contentment. There’s no doubt that if this were to occur at a Canadian university, the outrage would likely be as immediate and palpable as Harvard’s response has been.
Encourage civil discussions at the family dinner table. While family dinners are becoming increasingly rare, they are essential, and this situation illustrates why. Different generations can learn from one another, but only if they take the time to share their thoughts in a non-combative manner. As parents and teachers, we have a responsibility to model the behaviors we want our children and students to emulate.
If we don’t address the challenges faced by our loved ones, we cannot fulfill our roles as nurturers and protectors. The way we model our responses will earn the trust of our kids, who will pass this behavior down to their children over time. Learning to debate controversial topics is a skill that can be developed. We acquire all our behaviors in this way, including bullying. The choice is ours.
Ultimately, change begins with us, or it doesn’t begin at all.
Jay Remer was raised in the United States and emigrated to Canada roughly 30 years ago. Since then, I have been involved in the writers’ community and the hospitality industry. I live in Saint Andrews, NB, and look forward to the day when healthy, civil debates bear more compassionate outcomes. Please feel free to send your questions: jayremer@chco.tv
